Choices, Circumstances & The Cycle of Regret: What Can We Learn from Chetasyog?

🌊 Choices, Circumstances & The Cycle of Regret: What Can We Learn from Chetasyog?

Every person lives in circumstances that are not fully in their control 🌍. Still, we often feel we are in control. But in reality, Life only offers us choices 🛤️, and each choice comes with its own pros & cons ⚖️.

Most people keep living in this cycle of choices → outcomes → regret or satisfaction. But there is a deeper way of living — the path of Chetasyog 🕯️, which brings harmony between Being-Self and Being-Life.

🎭 Circumstances & Choices

Life is like a stage play 🎭.

The stage (circumstances) is already set—we don’t decide the setting.

What we do decide is how we act on that stage (our choices).

Each choice brings outcomes with both light and shadow ☀️🌑.

👉 Example: Choosing a new job might give more salary 💰 (pro) but less family time 🕰️ (con).

🧠 The Self’s Way of Choosing

Most people choose only from their Being-Self mindset:

Ego, fear, desire, habit, comparison.

Naturally, outcomes from such choices also come with pros & cons.

So life becomes a cycle:

Choice → Outcome → Realization → New Choice. 🔄

😌 Satisfaction & 😔 Regret

After outcomes appear, people feel:

Satisfied 😌 when things go their way.

Regretful 😔 when things go against their hopes.

But here’s the catch:

Satisfaction and regret both sink into the subconscious 🧠💾.

Later, they secretly influence future decisions.

👉 Regret in love may create fear to open up again 💔.

👉 Pride in success may create arrogance 💼.

This creates emotional cycles 🎢 that tie a person to outcomes.

🌳 Analogy – The Garden of Life

Life is a garden 🌺.

Circumstances are like seasons 🌦️—you can’t control them.

Choices are like plants 🌱 you sow.

Every plant gives fruit and thorns 🍎🌵.

If you plant only for quick fruit (Self’s mindset), you may also get more thorns.

But if you plant with patience and awareness (synergy with Life), you enjoy both fruit and shade 🌳.

🌊 Analogy – The River & the Boat

Life is a river 🌊.

You sit in a boat of Self 🚤.

Circumstances are currents—not in your control.

Choices are how you steer the boat.

Sometimes current leads to a beautiful bank 🌴 (satisfaction).

Sometimes to rocks ⛰️ (regret).

But the river keeps flowing, and you can always re-steer ⚓.

✨ The Chetasyog Path – Beyond Regret & Satisfaction

Here is where Chetasyog comes in:

Being-Self (Me): The individual existence — physicality, personality, sociality.

Being-Life (Is): The cosmic consciousness — the flow of life within and around us.

Most people choose only from Me, the small Self. But Chetasyog is the mindful awareness of synergy between Me and Is.

👉 In Chetasyog, choices are not made only from desire, fear, or comparison. They are seen in the larger flow of Life.

Then even when outcomes bring pros & cons, they are not “good or bad punishments,” but Life’s teaching 📩.

Satisfaction doesn’t inflate the ego, and regret doesn’t sink the heart.

You begin to live in balance ⚖️, with joy that is independent of outcomes.

🕯️ What a Layperson Can Learn

1. Circumstances are Life’s signals 🚦

You don’t control them, but you can respond with awareness.

2. Every choice has two sides ⚖️

Don’t expect perfection; learn from both gain and loss.

3. Regret and pride are not final truths 🎢

They are only emotional waves, not your real self.

4. Practice Chetasyog 🌌

See every choice in the synergy of Being-Self and Being-Life.

👉 Ask: “Is this only my ego’s need, or Life’s flow guiding me?”

5. Peace comes from synergy, not control 🕊️

Harmony between ME and IS makes you free from the endless cycles of regret and satisfaction.

🌸 Closing Reflection

Every choice is a seed 🌱.

It will always grow into fruit and thorns.

You cannot control the season (circumstance),

but you can plant with awareness of Life’s flow 🌊.

👉 In Chetasyog, you live not just as the small Self (Me),

but in synergy with Life (Is).

And that is where true peace blossoms 🌺.